Many people associate beginning of the year with changes they feel are crucial for their happiness and satisfaction.
We learned this long ago. New Year is a time for new beginnings and this is the date we associate with major decisions we feel are important for our lives. There is a crucial motive why this date tends to mark the start of a new chapter in life. Analysing the lifestyle of the contemporary human, often stuck in the labyrinth of their own desires, psychologists usually find two types of motive in this trend. The first is procrastination. The second – mental, sometimes even physical preparation and accumulation of energy. If we take a step back from the present moment, the conflict between our desires and our possibilities has always been present. The present problem is of a different nature. Even when there are possibilities, there is utter confusion in the desire domain. Even when the confusion seems quite banal at first glance. For example, an earlier start of the day, coffee in your favourite cafe in Belgrade before diving into the stressful day at the office. Finding time for a workout during the working week; a weekend that would comprise a short trip outside of your standard urban environment or more time spent hanging out with your friends. And let’s not even get started on the imperatives and requirements of the modern ideology of a healthy lifestyle. That requires a Copernican turn, a thorough change of lifestyle and the time we usually don’t have for it. Procrastination, or, fixing something to a certain date – in this case, New Year – is the consequence of one easily recognizable and one somewhat more complex reason. The former is being a creature of habit – and as far as habits go, the older they are, the more weight they bear. A change of regime in any walk of life that is burdened with the weight of habits is a matter of character and effort. Postponement in this case makes the situation more difficult, indicating self-delusion. The latter is related to self-awareness. Is this thing that I want my real impulse and need, or is it something I got swayed to want, following global trends? We frequently choose things that fascinate us but don’t really suit us as they are incompatible with our lifestyle, taste, character. The result of such a dissonance, again, is postponement and choosing an important date for our final start. To prevent this January from becoming another item on the inventory of missed chances, it is important to take a good, hard look at one’s own priorities and desires. If we do recognize them as our own, everything else is a matter of strength of character. Those who like to associate things with New Year’s, as a new chapter and time of change, to collect energy they require to implement these changes and, at that, know perfectly well what they want and why they want it, are in a somewhat better position. Assuming that both types of “fans of big dates” are sure of their desires, these few short tips can help them really make their wishes come true in 2018.
- Realistic expectations and realistic plan: exaggerated demands we impose on ourselves backfire. If what we have imagined cannot be done, it demotivates us and leads us to disappointment. Burdening one’s self with excessive actions breeds pressure and anxiety.
- Stick to the decisions you make: If the change is real and doable, the most important thing is to turn them into new habits. This happens much faster than it seems at first, but beginnings are best known for being – difficult!
- Forget old failures: Memories of past defeat are demotivating and are tried and tested assassins of self-confidence. Besides, past is behind you in the year that is slowly running out. Memories of personal shortcomings reinforce dejection, which is the opposite of any great idea. Having faith in yourself requires optimism and a completely different view of failure.
So, happy sailing into realisation of a lifestyle you truly want!